Life brings with a plethora of experiences, each with a flavour of its own. I wish to share with all my readers these various experiences and observations that I have made during my time here on this planet. They may be funny, thought-provoking or simple reflections. I do hope you will find these enjoyable and interesting.

Sunday, 19 February 2012

A Story of a Valentine's Day And A Few Days That Followed - Part I

For better for worse, in sickness or in health

(Taken from Photobucket)

Valentine's day – a day which has captured the imagination of the entire world and come to become something of craze, hysteria, fad, a commercial opportunity - whatever you choose to call it. To some, it may be a day of great significance.  Why do I choose to talk about this day 5 days after it is over? I never bothered about it all my life. I have always wondered about the meaning of this much touted word “love” which seems to be bandied about so easily these days. However, this year the day came to me with a difference. It brought back the words of the wedding vows to me.

"I, take you to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; and I promise to be faithful to you until death parts us".

I am not a Christian, but I love these vows as they are so meaningful and taken consciously by both the bride and the groom knowing fully well what it is that they are promising and the enormity and purport of the vow. It is taken in front of so many witnesses in front of the altar, in a language they clearly understand and cannot claim ignorance of. So neither can say later that they did not understand what he/she said and wants to backtrack.

This time a friend asked me how I going to “celebrate” Valentine's day and it brought back the wedding vows which we did not take in those particular words to mind – especially the bit about “in sickness and in health”.

So that I can make clear what I am going on about here, I shall just briefly mention that I have been through 9 surgeries to date in my life time. One of those was when I was a kid, the rest in during the last 12 years. Life has gone on nonetheless and I can confidently say I have achieved whatever I have had the potential for (even if it has not been anything spectacular) despite all the setbacks.

This Valentine's day saw me getting admitted to the hospital for my 8th surgery – a spinal fusion for a problem which has been with me for the past few years. Although I knew that it would involve a considerable amount of endurance, I had not bargained for what followed – I knew these possibilities existed, but they always happen to other people, not to oneself or so one thinks. More about that follows. So it came to pass that and my other half spent the day after Valentine's day holding hands in the ICU.

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  1. Dear Satchi....
    What a lovely post...I do agree with you that Christian vows are simple and beautiful.....

    Only thing is both who get married do understand it...

    Marriage is lovely only when these vows are followed and for us to realise this such times like Illness help us guage our spouses and am so Happy in a way this Valentines has been special to you...God Bless You dear...
    Will wait for next instalment....

  2. Very true. Adverse situations serve like no other to test our endurance and commitment levels. Those are the times that test the true mettle of a person. All the other parts are already there.

  3. Dear Swati,

    I am so moved. God Bless you both. Best wishes for a speedy recovery.

  4. Thanks Raji Mami for the good wishes. :-)