I Shall Overcome Some Day!

Pain can do strange things to people. They laugh at it, cry over it, grump, grouch, whine ….. Well, having done all of the above, I finally decided to try out a technique I heard of a while ago, but was quite sceptical of. It is something that cannot harm me and best of all, maybe it might just help. It is called Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and involves tapping on various points on the body where the energy meridians run. I am absolutely open to trying out anything that might help. If it does not, doesn’t matter. So many things did not work out in the past.

So this journey started out about 6 months ago. One of the nicest things about it is that I have become part of a very nice, supportive virtual community where we tap on various issues – physical and emotional including day to day emotions such as anxiety, feeling overwhelmed, dealing with grief/loss ….

During sessions and chats with a couple of friends on this group, there have been many realizations which I hope will help me in my journey.

1. Pain: It is important how we learn to see pain. Treat it as something to be dealt with in the moment – not as a continuous state of existence.

2. Be ‘nice’ and ‘help’ people. Sure. But certainly not to a point where you are being walked on and feel bereft of any self-respect. Allow people to do things for themselves. It is alright to say “No”. There is no need for guilt over that. It is probably good for them too. They might not feel good being dependent on someone all the time and might enjoy the sense of independence and empowerment.

3. The additional advantage of #2 is the positive effect on ourselves. When one bends backwards to be nice to others, knowingly or unknowingly one tends to have expectations of reciprocation from the other side when needed. This frequently leads to disappointments. Don’t bend backwards. It certainly is not good for your back!!! Literally and figuratively . Do whatever you can comfortably do and those expectations would disappear. None of the “If I can do this, why can’t they?”

4. Keep the child in you alive. They are great fun to be with.

5. Most importantly learn to “love and accept yourself completely and unconditionally” and you will be a happier person. It takes time to come to that point experientially even if one has heard or known of it all the time.

So 5 important realizations for 6 months – not a bad deal, eh?

Am seriously glad to have gone down this path. Has it given me freedom from my pain? Not fully, not yet. There are good days and there are bad days. But I certainly live on hope and won’t give up. It is a process and who knows how long it will take me … but I will surely get there. I SHALL OVERCOME SOME DAY! Looking forward to more adventure sports.

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